The Relationship/Business Paradox Keeps You Stuck

"The better you do in your business, the worse you do in your relationships."

Whoa, that statement is more loaded than a watermelon truck in southern Florida.

But is it true?

Unfortunately, quite often - and I've learned this lesson in the harshest way possible.

There was this one girl who ticked all the boxes. Beautiful. Smart. Funny. Inspiring. Supportive, loyal, and just... awww. I met her in the gym, right when I started my business.

We hit it off immediately.

She did everything she could to support me in my business and I did everything I could to make her feel safe and help her grow.

But...

I was so deep into work that I treated my whole life like a business. When I met with friends, family, or my girlfriend, my mind still operated on the same principles as during my workday:

• Being stoic

• Fixing problems

• Working long hours

• "Playing to win" mindset

• Leading with goals in mind

• Quick & efficient communication

This took a heavy toll on the relationship. Instead of treating our time together like a deep human connection, I ran it like a business - efficient, rational, and goal-oriented.

What it would've needed instead was:

• Showing emotions and vulnerability

• Mutual understanding and holding space

• Prioritizing quality time together and being present

• Focusing on "us" rather than "you vs. me"

• Leading "from the heart," with the other's needs in mind

• Talking to make the other feel seen, heard, and safe

This "business/relationship paradox" is a problem many ambitious men run into - they're so deep in "work mode" they don't realize what it does to their relationship until it's too late. It's convenient because business becomes predictable and rational, which is an environment the masculine thrives in. However, relationships between humans are anything but predictable and rational.

But that doesn't mean you have to chose between the two.

Life isn't a zero sum game.

You can have both.

But you have to do it right.

Secret Sauce - This week's question:

Just like you had to build business skills, you'll have to learn "relationship skills" - and make the switch between them when needed.

Ask yourself which of the above skills you need to improve most. Focus on that. Every day, get a little better at it.

Practice, practice, practice.

What you show up for is what you'll thrive in.

One skill at a time.

🙏

All the best from a keyboard not far away,

Moreno

PS: If you want to know more about solving the problems in your relationship and turning it into a place of respect, intimacy, and love, I offer premium 1:1 coaching. Book a free call here and I'll take a look at your specific situation.