You Don't Have Relationship Or Business Problems

There's one thing wrong with 99% of advice you find online.

It tells you that you need to solve problems where they occur. If you're fat, hop on a diet. If you're broke, get your business in order. If you have drama and arguments instead of support and amazing s3x, get your relationship right.

It seems so logical and easy. Just apply these new tips, tactics, and strategies and your struggles will evaporate like spilled orange juice in the summer heat. True, but...

Like the OJ, they leave a stain - something that will be there forever.

When my relationships crumbled, I'd just look for someone else. Guess what? We repeated the same patterns, resulting in lots of arguments, little intimacy, and me not feeling like the powerful masculine I wanted to be.

When I struggled with my business, I was too proud to get help and too ignorant to see what really held me back. Guess what? I hit the same walls and spun my wheels, not moving forward no matter how many "systems" and "frameworks" I applied.

So, here are the bad news/good news:

Bad: You don't actually have relationship or business problems - you've fought the symptoms instead of root causes for years.

Good: You have "you" problems - so "you" can solve what it's really about.

Because the full truth is this: Until you address the underlying patterns, you will always run into the same issues again and again.

Sure, they might show up in another disguise - but in the end, it's "same same, but different" as they say in Thailand.

The problem is we often look for solutions in the external world rather than our internal one.

But this is like shining light onto a lightbulb. As long as the external source of energy is there, everything's bright. Once it's gone, you're back into darkness.

The much better approach is to make this lightbulb shine by itself.

Because if you're stuck, the solution is 100% in you.

It's in your beliefs, identity, perspective, and programming - they create behaviors that keep you stuck in the same loops. This is subtle and subconscious, so it can happen for years before you even notice it.

Once you change that, everything else will change, too.

But if you don't?

Good luck going through the same cycles again and again.

Secret Sauce - This Week's Question:

Chances are you have a bunch of challenges right now (we all do.)

You want more money in your business. You want more and better s3x in your relationship. You want to better yourself and achieve a goal that seems far away.

And you've run into walls, maybe without even realizing it. You've told yourself that "this time it will work" and that the new, fancy thing you got will "change everything."

But chances are it's just the same cycle of hope and frustration.

So here's my question:

"What's your 'external' problem - and what's the 'you' problem behind it?"

Maybe you know exactly what to do but are afraid of failing. Maybe you create the same issues with the people around you again and again. Maybe you procrastinate because you don't want to face the struggles of doing the work.

Whatever it is, realize this:

It's all in you - your patterns, perspective, programming, identity, and actions.

This is good news because it means you're the one who can change your life forever.

But you have to work on the true cause instead of band-aid external solutions that keep you stuck in the loop.

That's when you break through your frustrations once and for all.

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