The #1 Thing Women Find Attractive In A Relationship

You have to put your woman into her place.

[Feminists are having heart attacks right now.]

Mainstream advice says you need to pay attention to her needs, respect her, show empathy, listen, and be a supportive partner. I agree with all of it - but there's one problem:

The narrative is that if you're nice to her, don't upset her, and make her happy, she'll make you happy as well.

This sounds good on paper - but the interaction between masculine and feminine doesn't work this way.

You can't be afraid to upset your partner, to back up your views, and to call her out when she oversteps your boundaries. You can't be at her beck and call just to avoid drama and arguments and hope that if you just play by her rules, she'll love you and be intimate with you.

If you do that, attraction plummets - and no, it's not just because you've been together for so long. I've seen couples who are still heads over heels for each other even after decades.

But if you fall into the "nice guy" trap, all you get is more nagging and headaches and less respect and intimacy.

The feminine cannot love a masculine she doesn't respect.

The feminine energy flows freely. It's endless. It's beautiful chaos, inspiration, creativity, and lifeforce all in one. If you've ever seen a woman dancing, singing, or expressing herself artistically, you know what I mean. It's fascinating to watch.

The masculine energy provides the secure frame in which she can explore and be. It's the sturdy rock she can hold on to and the boundaries that keep her safe. Without it, the dancer falls off the floor, the singer has no rhythm, and the artist splashes paint on the floor and walls.

Here's what this looks like in practice:

A few years ago, I went to the gym with my girlfriend at the time:

While I did an exercise, she kept fumbling with the machine and poking me. I dropped the weight, gave her a stern look, and told to stop it immediately in a super assertive tone.

Was it uncomfortable for her? Yes. Did I wish I didn't have to be that harsh? For sure.

But do you know what she told me after?

"Thank you, I need this sometimes."

As soon as we got home, she was all over me - craving my body on hers.

Stand up for your boundaries. Communicate your needs. Do not tolerate disrespectful behavior.

That's what maintains the natural polarity and attraction in your relationship.

Secret Sauce - This week's question:

Where have you tolerated things because you didn't want to "rock the boat?"

Examine closely - if you're honest with yourself, you will find some. The argument you gave up on. The annoying behavior you eventually tolerated. The little things you don't like but don't want to "make a scene" about.

Now, go further - how do you feel about yourself in these moments? Do you feel like a powerful, respectable, and attractive man?

If you don't see yourself that way, how is she supposed to feel attraction for you?

Tough questions, I know.

But pain brings change.

🙏

All the best from a keyboard not far away,

Moreno

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